I Have Something Exciting To Tell You!

First Pregnancy Announcement

I’ve been away from the social media world for nearly two months, and if you’ve been wondering if I’m OK, yes, I’m more than OK. I actually have something very exciting to share with you!

Our lives are about to change profoundly because… I’m pregnant!!!

My husband and I are expecting our first “kitten” (that’s what we’ve decided to call our baby until we know the gender) somewhere around the end of May. My husband’s birthday is on the 17th of May and the current due date is the 18th. Wouldn’t that be a fantastic birthday present? 🙂

Right now I’m just over 15 weeks. The dreadful first trimester is now over and I’m feeling great again.

I had 7 weeks from hell with strong all day nausea every single day, complete aversion to food, and immense fatigue. My husband Luca had to take over cooking, doing the dishes, cleaning, and the pet care. He actually did a brilliant job and he also took care of me very, very well.

If you’d like to know more about my experiences and feelings during the first 14 weeks of pregnancy, I’m going to share my first trimester pregnancy update very soon, so keep an eye out. 😉

The Time Had To Be Right

It took me ages to feel completely ready to have kids. There were times when my husband wanted them when we were still in London, but I didn’t feel the time was right as I wanted to focus on my career first. Then we moved away and our financial situation was very uncertain for many years while we were building our new life and businesses on the other side of the world. It was definitely not the right time for kids. Plus, my health was so rubbish for a while that I just knew we had to wait.

Fast forward to last May, suddenly everything clicked into place: we were financially, mentally, and physically ready to start a family. All my doubts disappeared and I simply knew that the time was right. My husband felt the same of course.

How We Found Out

So we decided to start trying to conceive. On the second cycle of TTC, I was expecting my period but it never came.

I went for my first acupuncture treatment when I was two days late and I shared my suspicions of being pregnant with Lisa, my acupuncturist. She was the first one to know because I didn’t even want to tell my hubby until I was a little more sure about it after our crazy experience with phantom pregnancy in the previous cycle of trying (I’ll share the story in another blog post).

After around a week of waiting, I took a pregnancy test and by then it was strongly positive. I was almost 100% sure that it would be positive because my period had never been late before. I always track my cycles and I know the exact day of ovulation, which means my cycles never start later than 14 days after the ovulation (it’s simply physically impossible for the luteal phase to last much longer than 14 days, unless one is pregnant).

Do I Have Any Fears or Doubts?

I used to have so many until I decided I was ready to try for a kid. Once there was the slightest possibility of being pregnant, all I felt was immense love and excitement. All the fears and doubts had disappeared.

When I was a teenager, I had a huge fear of giving birth. I used to say that I was going to have an elective C-section because I was so scared of the pain. Then I started saying that I’d go for an epidural. And then, as I got older, I realised that I wanted to go all natural and to truly experience the birth. Now that I’m pregnant, the thought of labour doesn’t even scare me or stress me out anymore.

Having lived with my husband for 13 years, just the two of us, the thought of kids interfering with our daily life and changing it completely used to scare me. Not anymore! I realise that life will change a lot, but I welcome any necessary change because I know that kids won’t take anything away from our life. They will enrich it.

Losing the perks of a childless life, such as not having our quality time together or not being flexible enough to go wherever and do whatever without anyone depending on us, does’t really scare us. It’s just a transformation, and a very welcome one.

The Meaning of Life for Me

I’ve always thought that the only meaning in life for me is to have and raise kids. I know it might sound cliche, but I think we all want to leave something after ourselves, whether it’s our kids, or a book, or a movie, or a building, or something else that can live after we die. Sharing all our knowledge and experience, as well as showing the world to our little ones, really seems like the only real meaning of life to me.

And I’m not saying that having kids is the only meaning in life for everyone, but for me it’s always been. I’ve always felt that hole in my life and felt sad because I knew that conditions weren’t right, yet I so desperately wanted a family.

Also, all of my friends with kids have been urging me to have kids for ages, and they all say that having kids is the best thing that ever happened to them. And they say that with eyes shining with happiness.

I feel that there is a major generational gap there because many of our older friends (let’s say from our parents’ generation) primarily say negative things about having kids or they say that they love their kids to bits but raising them was very, very hard. Many of them also had very unhappy marriages, so perhaps that also influences their experiences a lot.

What do you think? Was having kids a positive or negative experience for you? Did it give more meaning to your life?

I’m not naive thinking that it’s all going to be unicorns and rainbows, but I’m sure we’ll manage and I’m sure it’s going to be a wonderful, hugely life-enriching experience for both of us.

For now, I’m just going to enjoy my second trimester, continue reading lots of baby related books, take advantage of the “me” time while I still can, and spend lots of quality alone with my hubby.

And of course I’ll do my best to be back here on my blog and YouTube channel much more regularly throughout the rest of the pregnancy if all goes well.

Also, please let me know which pregnancy related blog posts or videos you’d like to see.

Thank you for reading/watching!

Simply yours,
Vita xx

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